A Cuppa Momsense

Motherhood isn’t supposed to feel this lonely—but for so many of us, it does. This week’s issue is all about rebuilding the village, finding small ways to show up for each other, and giving yourself the support you desperately deserve.

WHY 70% OF MOMS FEEL COMPLETELY ALONE

I've been staring at this research for three days, and I can't shake it.

Peanut and Nuna just released data from 2,250 mothers that basically confirms what those of us in the trenches already knew: motherhood in 2025 is harder than it was even just 20 years ago. But seeing it in black and white? That hits different.

Where did the village go? Motherhood in 2025 Study

Here's the stat that stopped me cold: Only 18% of mothers feel fully supported, while 70% feel like they're doing it completely alone.

Let that sink in for a second. We're talking about the most connected generation in history, and seven out of ten moms feel isolated.

The Village Didn't Just Shrink—It Disappeared

The numbers tell a story that's honestly heartbreaking:

  • 75% of mothers feel they have less support than their own mothers had

  • 77% have less support than their grandmothers' generation

  • Only 20% felt fully supported during the fourth trimester

I keep thinking about my grandmother, who had neighbors dropping off casseroles and aunts who'd watch the kids without being asked. Compare that to today, where new moms are Googling "is it normal for my baby to..." at 3 AM because they don't have anyone to call.

What I'm Going to Do About It

I can't just sit with these statistics and do nothing. So here's what I'm committing to—not as some grand gesture, but as a mom who's tired of watching other moms struggle alone.

I'm starting with babysitting swaps. Because we all need someone to watch our kids so we can grocery shop without negotiating snack demands every three aisles. Or take a shower that lasts longer than four minutes. I'v already texted another mom from my son’s school and we're going to trade off—no money, no guilt, just "I've got your kid so you can breathe for a minute."

Our Calm Mama Revolution Facebook community is getting a major upgrade. Right now, it's a place where moms of highly sensitive children can connect online. But I want it to become something more—a real support network where we're not just sharing memes about survival mode (though those stay, obviously). We're going to create actual connection points, ways to find the mom down the street who gets exactly what you’re going through.

(Psst.. if you haven’t joined our group already, I highly recommend you do!)

And here's the thing I'm most excited about... I'm bringing moms together in person. Real faces, real conversations, real support. I can't spill all the details yet, but let's just say if you're near the San Francisco area… make sure you keep an eye out for an invitation in your inbox soon.

Because the research is clear: we need each other. Not just online, not just in theory, but showing up, sitting together, and rebuilding what we've lost.

And You? You Can Start Small Too

I know what you're thinking: "This sounds great, Jill, but I can barely manage my own chaos." I get it. But rebuilding the village doesn't have to be some massive undertaking. Sometimes it's as simple as:

Text one mom this week and ask how she's really doing. Not the "fine, busy, you know how it is" response—the real one. Then actually listen.

Start a neighborhood kid swap. Find one other mom and trade an hour here and there. You watch her kids so she can run errands kid-free, she returns the favor. No formal schedules, no overthinking it.

Be the mom who shows up. When someone mentions their kid's been sick all week, drop off soup. When a friend posts about a rough day, text "Want me to bring coffee?" and then actually do it.

Reply and tell me: What's one small thing you’re going to try this week?

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WHAT WE JUST BINGED

We’re a little late to the party, but we just finished Season 1 of Broadchurch—and wow, it was worth it. This British murder mystery keeps you guessing until the very end, weaving in twists that had us secondv-guessing everyone. Plus, you’ll spot plenty of familiar faces (David Tennant, Olivia Colman… need we say more?).

It’s not graphic, but the show dives into some heavy adult themes, so definitely one to save for when the kids are in bed. If you’re looking for your next binge-worthy drama, this is it.

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